At my house, Valentine’s Day means something.
Unfortunately, that “something” is usually wrapped in a shroud of chaos: “Where are the Valentines we just bought?” “How many kids are in your class now, anyway?” ”You have to bring what to school on Thursday?” “Wait, you are 12. You aren’t old enough to have a girlfriend!”
Only around half of the U.S. population celebrated Valentine’s Day, but for those working moms who love the celebration, a mid-week holiday can throw a serious wrench into the plans. Somewhere in wrangling all of the chaos that being a working mom entails, we have the capacity to forget: we, ladies, are also lovers. But how, in a mid-week holiday, fresh off the heels of working your eight- or nine- hour workday, fending off the children from the sugar highs they bring home from school, and all of the other aspects that just come from life…how do we shift from being the everyday machine of “get it done” to a woman capable of relaxing, and of being present in our own relationships?
In the effort to make this shift as easy as possible, here are my top 4 suggestions for making love count when Valentine’s falls in the middle of your already-hectic week:
Farm off the kids. There’s no reason you have to be the ones to wait out the detox from the sugar-laden class party—let a sitter do it! Book a few hours away (the earlier you can do this the better, since sitters are at a premium on Valentine’s Day!) and go out to dinner. Heck, go grocery shopping. Do whatever you want to do—just spend time together.
Go big and go home. Can’t get a sitter and grandma’s not buying it? Try a late-night in-home date instead. Feed the kids and send them to bed, and then break out the date night. Netflix or rented movies, plus your favorite take out and a bottle of wine can make for a great break, even in just a few late-night hours.
Take a day off. Make the day a real holiday and take the day off work. Then, make a day of it—go on a hike together, go see a movie, or just spend time binging Netflix and ordering takeout. It’s amazing how much you can reconnect with a full eight hours at your disposal!
Postpone. None of these options sounds like a winner? That’s okay—there’s no hard-and-fast rule that says you have to celebrate Valentine’s Day on Valentine’s Day. In fact, there’s a lot to be said for holding off until the weekend to make those fancy restaurant dinner plans—less crowds mean less stress trying to find a way to relax with your special significant other. And since you love each other no matter what day of the year it is, it’s a great time to revisit your relationship without the holiday label thrown on top.
No matter what your holiday plans this year, keep in mind that connecting with your partner is just as important as getting everything that needs to be done…done. Make spending time with your them (and your kids!) your ultimate priority this week, to show them how much you love them.
Jordana is a writer, past magazine publisher, three-time business owner and three-time mom. She is based out of Greenville, South Carolina.